20-02-2018 04:51 PM
20-02-2018 04:51 PM
My paranoid elderly mum is constantly seeking reassurance that she will not be locked up(delusion) by my brother and makes comnents like: "I will be locked up won't I?"...to which the natural response is "no, you wont be". Other times she frames a statement like... "you won't give me my meds when he locks me up" to which if I refrain from responding due today avoidance of enabling her compulsive need for a reassuring response, she would push further and say: "that's why I am scared, because you will neglect me and want me to die".... It's very hard tonight not take it personally. "if only you promise you'll let me stay with you forever, then I won't be scared anymore… all you have to do is say yes, then I won't bother yoi again.... ". If I don't respond.... "now I am so scared because yoi won't give me the reassurance "etc.... It goes round in circles. Anybody with a similar experience with a loved one you care for who can give me some wisdom?
21-02-2018 02:18 PM
21-02-2018 02:18 PM
Hello @Susana and welcome to the forum
sorry to hear you are going through soo much
sending you hugs
my mum is 86 and she has told mee hundreds of times that she never wants to go into a home , she want to stay in her home until the end , ¬don`t you put me in a home she says" and now she is starting to say for us to move in ith her so I can look after her
21-02-2018 04:02 PM
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21-02-2018 05:44 PM
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21-02-2018 05:48 PM
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21-02-2018 05:58 PM
21-02-2018 05:58 PM
@Susana, do you have other help , to give you a bit of respite from time to time xx
21-02-2018 06:12 PM
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21-02-2018 06:17 PM
21-02-2018 06:17 PM
I have tagged you in the Carers Hints and tips to Success also for you to have a look @Susana
Why is it so common that the care of elderly parents fall on the daughters? -- it always has my friend , I do genelogy which I have not done for a while as my husband has MI
you find hundreds of years ago one daughter would stay single and never married and she would be the one to look after the parents
21-02-2018 06:40 PM
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21-02-2018 06:50 PM
21-02-2018 06:50 PM
Sometimes it is hard my friend @Susana , but remember you are no alone
so whenever you need a talk orjust a social interaction which is good for us carers , come and have a Virtal cuppa at Re: Hot Chocolate Anyone
I have 4 step children who are and have MI like their dad at differnt levels , but they are adults now and my mum had 15 inches of dead bowel removed last year
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