Hi @billie18, welcome to forums 🙂
I'm truly sorry for what you're experiencing. Discovering infidelity is deeply painful, and the aftermath can be incredibly challenging. It's a positive sign that your husband is actively trying to repair the relationship and improve communication. However, it's completely understandable that you're struggling to move forward, given the trauma you've experienced.
Have you considered seeking support from a therapist or counsellor who can provide a safe space for you to process your emotions and work through this?
I believe it's important for your partner to understand the impact of his actions and take responsibility for his behavior, including any hurtful words spoken during the aftermath.
Rebuilding trust is a journey that takes time and effort from both partners. It's okay to take things one step at a time and prioritise your own healing.