24-09-2019 07:34 PM
24-09-2019 07:34 PM
Bit of a chill one this eve but I will move along to the next question anyhow 🙂
It’s easy to feel alone at times, even though mental health challenges are very common, society still lacks a bit of dialogue around caring for parents with mental health issues.
What are some practical steps to feeling less alone when caring for a parent?
24-09-2019 07:45 PM
24-09-2019 07:45 PM
i dont have friends caring for a dad with bipolar but i do have one friend who has a mum with parkinsons. even though it is different somewhat i find it comforting to know there are others out there figuring it all out too
24-09-2019 07:56 PM
24-09-2019 07:56 PM
Hey @Former-Member I am sorry both yourself and your friend are managing your loved one's pain like this but so beautiful that you have found some connection and one-ness along the journey.
24-09-2019 07:57 PM
24-09-2019 07:57 PM
Hi @nashy I have found society doesn’t have a dialogue. Most people who have found out that I have moved in with my mother because she has dementia either say “you’re very brave,
I couldn’t do that”. Or they’ll say it would be easier to put her in a home. Yeah it probably would be, but she’s a human being that gave a lot to me growing up an I feel like it’s my turn to give back
Not much support offered by people not in the same or similar situation.
24-09-2019 07:59 PM
24-09-2019 07:59 PM
Hey @Razzle yes I find the "I couldn't do that" somehow a little bit painful? I am sure the intent is good, but I am with you I find that one quite unhelpful. Sometimes we just want someone to say "I hear you. How can I show up for you?". What would help you further in your situation with your Mum?
24-09-2019 08:03 PM
24-09-2019 08:03 PM
Yes, exactly @nashy . It’s almost a dismissal - it’s like they want to end the topic before it begins.
24-09-2019 08:06 PM
24-09-2019 08:06 PM
Wow @Razzle yeah that is really true actually. I suppose for them, maybe it's a safety thing. Maybe they don't feel comfortable or qualified to be there? I definitely think as humans we forget we don't need the answers when someone else is in pain, we just need to show that we are there That we are listening. I want you to know we all hear you @Razzle And our community is always backing you and all of the support you give your Mother.
24-09-2019 08:08 PM
24-09-2019 08:08 PM
What are some practical steps to feeling less alone when caring for a parent?
none now only me @nashy
mum had a transition team when she broke her hip but that was in february -- nothing now
24-09-2019 08:09 PM
24-09-2019 08:09 PM
Hey all @Razzle @Former-Member @Former-Member @Sally @Shaz51 It seems tonight is a busy night for everyone as we don't have too many people online for this event (totally fine, it happens!). We're going to wrap it up here, but I will leave the thread open until tomorrow for further chats in case anyone logs in later this evening.
@Razzle Thank you so much for your insight and for sharing this story with your Mother, really appreciated, you're not alone with it
Thank you heaps @Former-Member As well! Chat tomorrow all 🙂
24-09-2019 08:13 PM
24-09-2019 08:13 PM
hello @Razzle @Nong1990 @Darcy @Sally , @Determined
here for you anytime to chat 24 / 7 everyday
thank you @nashy
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