Lived Experience Forum

[amber22]

That is so valid, it can be really nerve wracking expressing our thoughts and needs to others - I think we may touch on this in a few questions time! @Quilly 

But I just wanted to say that it's really great that you are expressing your needs towards others, I think that is a great first step and very challenging to do

[Quilly]

Nice! 😁 this sounds safer

[oscbeep]

@Quilly It can so be anxiety inducing waiting for the response. This is something that I defiantly feel very physically! Keeping in check with my body is a big help in this type situation for sure! 

[Shaz51]

I like to think about what to say before I say something and then sometimes it is too late @oscbeep 

[Quilly]

I am copying this post! So very helpful

[nula_ray]

Thank you for bringing this topic to the forum! I strongly believe in self-advocacy as well as the importance of community advocacy. I have read somewhere (I think from an anti-harassment organisation called HeartMob) that there are statistics that prove that defending and advocating for yourself improves mental health - even more so if the community supports the self-advocacy. ❤️

[oscbeep]

@Patchworks I love that you mentioned Practice! I treat assertiveness as a practice and not just something that I am. I will always be able to keep growing and evolving how I engage, and I think this is a very special thing! 

[TideisTurning]

I feel that @Shaz51! It can be so tough sometimes to come up with an articulate response in the moment. 

[chibam]

What can we do to minimize the burden we impose on others when we do need to express needs that are contrary to what they want?

[Snowie]

I don't have much confidence in speaking up. I struggle to express myself and just say yes or no. I try and do it sometimes but end up shutting myself down