08-08-2020 11:30 AM
08-08-2020 11:30 AM
Hello fellow people.
Just posting to remind myself that I'm not the only person in the world at the moment, I think. My partner's last crisis wound down two days ago but I still feel shocking. There must be a cumulative effect I think, as I can usually bounce back more quickly than this.
I have a headache I can't shake, I feel nauseous more often than not, I can't get my head right to catch up my uni work, and the house is a mess. Should be able to get things back together again more quickly than this.
Virtual elbows to all,
Upright Rabbit.
08-08-2020 01:29 PM
08-08-2020 01:29 PM
Hello @UprightRabbit
Crashing after a crisis has abated is exactly what happened to me and getting some supports into place for oneself I believe is imperative so that one is better able to manage the next crisis that happens (whether or not it is MH related or not).
We are not alone in this, indeed a study done on resilience in nurses showed that support post major event was necessary.
I had some of the symptoms of carer stress that you have at present including an inability to concentrate on my work and a messy house.
I found getting a counselor that helped guide me through the aftermath was most helpful.
You might like to join us in this decluttering discussion thread Decluttering and home maintenance which was started as a follow up to one on the LE side which had run its course. In this thread mutual encouragement is given to tackle our clutter and other household tasks that need our attention. I actually found that taking control of my mess (which was a slow process) was parallel to my recovery from the crisis.
Darcy
08-08-2020 01:54 PM
08-08-2020 01:54 PM
Hi @Former-Member
Thank you so much for replying. Carer stress. I start crying the moment anyone is nice to me. I have decided to come up with a crisis management plan and I stuck a note on my mirror saying, 'I promise to look after you first'.
I am simply unable to help or support my partner right now. I haven't got anything. Carer stress crash is a thing then, right? I'm not imagining it?
Hope you are caring for yourself first today too.
Friendly elbows,
Rabbit.
08-08-2020 02:43 PM - edited 08-08-2020 02:43 PM
08-08-2020 02:43 PM - edited 08-08-2020 02:43 PM
No, you are not imagining it @UprightRabbit ,it is also known as carer burnout. There are a lot of good coping strategies in this thread Carers Hints and tips to Success that might help as well as in 8 dimensions of wellness .
08-08-2020 06:23 PM
08-08-2020 06:23 PM
Hi @Former-Member
I'll spend some time this evening looking around at the bits you have suggested - thank you, I appreciate it.
Ate some food and took my son swimming so that's good 🙂 feeling almost human again. Hoping you are well, Rabbit.
10-08-2020 07:54 AM
10-08-2020 07:54 AM
@UprightRabbit Hey UprightRabbit and hiya @Former-Member hoping you both have a kind and caring day ahead. Dont forget to look after yourselves. Love pea
10-08-2020 08:54 AM
10-08-2020 08:54 AM
You too @greenpea
10-08-2020 09:39 AM
10-08-2020 09:39 AM
Good morning @Former-Member and @greenpea
Hoping you are well 🙂
I'm interested in being a contributor and a help to others as well as asking for help myself but it will take me some time to learn everyone's backgrounds. Is there a way to do this? I am guessing that the best way is to spend time reading through existing posts and narratives. I am likely to need a lot of help moving forward lol, but I don't plan to be someone who only asks, I plan to be someone who asks, uses what they're given, and offers support back when I can.
Best, Rabbit.
10-08-2020 09:52 AM
10-08-2020 09:52 AM
@UprightRabbit Good on you Rabbit. We need that on the forums. Best way is to dive right in. Look at the various threads and introduce yourself. One of my favourites is the Re: Good Morning! thread. Have a look around and tell me what your think :Dx
10-08-2020 10:26 AM
10-08-2020 10:26 AM
Most people tend to contribute most to discussion threads that are relevant to them such as diagnosis ie BP (bipolar) Sz (schizophrenia) BPD (borderline personality disorder) or relational to the person they care for ie partner/ parent/ child/ sibling. In the "looking after ourselves" category there are plenty of mutual discussions on self care, shared hobbies that help us express ourselves (which help us cope) and the social pages where it is nice to have a place for general banter without the serious stuff with those who understand threads include a virtual cafe, dogs, cats, other funnies. There is a little crossover on the social pages - the one @greenpea suggested is on the LE side, the dog thread is more active on the carer side and the LE side has an active craft thread.
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