23-06-2019 09:46 PM
23-06-2019 09:46 PM
I have been told to create boundaries but he makes it impossible. He screams when he doesn't get what he wants. If I leave, he chases me down the street screaming at me. I don't want to cause a scene or have someone contact Police, so I always just go back to him..suggestions??
24-06-2019 05:33 AM
24-06-2019 05:33 AM
@ComplexityQueen Hi ComplexityQueen 🙂 I know you know this but by going back to him all the time you are enabling the behaviour. You just have to go. If the police are called so be it. They have dealt with situations like this many times before so nothing would shock them. What is more you are not helping your partner by going back as soon as he starts this set of behaviours it is stunting his growth as an individual. Just go and have trust in him. greenpea
24-06-2019 07:49 PM
24-06-2019 07:49 PM
Hi @ComplexityQueen, it sounds like you're going through a tough situation. You mention that you don't want to cause a scene, but how do you feel when you go back especially if you have to create boundaries (was this from a psychologist or GP)?
24-07-2019 01:53 PM - edited 24-07-2019 01:55 PM
24-07-2019 01:53 PM - edited 24-07-2019 01:55 PM
No, not a Therapist. I have just heard in different groups and stuff that boundaries are important in these situations.
It's hard because it's not him, he gets so unwell.
27-07-2019 01:30 PM
27-07-2019 01:30 PM
It is hard @ComplexityQueen, have you been able to chat to your GP to get some assistance?
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