So tonight I was bluntly told that one of the children think I am picking on on them because I hate them.
While I need to maintain boundaries (hard when the mother wants to be a friend rather than a parent by my perception) I also need to respond with love and encouragement.
The emotionally challanged me at the moment wants to respond with 'fine you deal with them and all the crap I am dealing with'
It is a bit cutting when I have that put on me when it feels like I am jumping through burning hoops to keep everyone happy.
This evenings sook came after I said enough was enough when we were still messing around over an hour after bed time. Now tomorrow we will all wonder why everyone is so tired.
It makes it complicated when there is a history of mi.
The whole issue of percieved rejection and abandonment is the basis of darlings issues. children are already at increased risk so I need to tread carefully and with love... at the same time I have seen the hard way with darling how a lack of boundaries just creates a bigger monster (*as in the illness not the individual)