I agree with the original post entirely. As far as the latter part of the message goes I have been telling people that there are millions of children walking around in adult bodies for years and I have stopped referring to the majority of people as men and women coz there are very few Men and Women out there ... there are plenty of males and females however. I have virtually shut myself off from the majority of society now, I still go to work (I work a casual job) but I live in a more remote part of Sydney now and I have cut off the vast majority of aquaintances and supposed friends coz the majority of people are just too childish or immature in thier thinking for me to tolerate. They lack compassion and care for others. They are so self absorbed and ego driven that it sickens me. But above all, the majority of people lack understanding or the desire to understand and really connect with others on a non-narcicisstic level - its all about them and what they can get, not about making a real connection or genuinely being interested in someone else. And I'm talking about 'good' people. People who think that they are decent and who think that they try to do the right thing. But challenge them or scratch under the surface and most are just as arrogant, selfish and ego-centric as the rest. Most people do not want to understand another and don't really care and of course they are in denial about thier own failings (there's the ego again). And without understanding and caring, and the things that follow (loyalty, trust, respect) no real relationships can be had.
As for the first part, I have never thought of it like that but I absolutely agree. It's all well and good through your teens and early twenties when you are sleeping around but as time goes on conditioning/nature dictates that (generally) we want to commit to someone but due to the points that we have previously discussed and the lack of inner work, the lack of maturity of most is never more obvious than in sexual relationships. I would like to add, both males and females are lacking in this area.
So, what is it that I am saying? That human beings, as individuals, are, in my opinion, for the most part found lacking. Lacking the emotional ability to genuinely connect with others in any meaningful way ... a way that benefits all of the parties involved, not just one. Individuals do not look inside and do the self work needed to create a whole and well-rounded individual (mental illness forces us to do this but many people never even think to do it) that can actually fulfill the relationship requirements of an actual whole and well-rounded individual (I realise that everyone is a work in progress though). Not many live by thier principles (if indeed they have any), values or have integrity ... and for those of us who do, seeking friends or partners is virtually impossible ... my last partner left me because I do just that ... what more can I say? So, am I and the few others like me, destined to a life alone or a life of perpetual searching and disappointment? It certainly feels that way. The stupidity of the human race, the growing rate of societal narcissisim and the desperation that drives people to take second best and put up with the BS is bloody frustrating, very disheartening and lonely.
It is foolish for one to think that the business of living a fulfilling life in our society is an inate ability. It is not. We need to work on ourselves and learn in order for our lives to be fulfilling, but we need others to do the same ... so we can have reltionships with others above the level of selfish imbecile.
As for the last comment .. take a lesson from Socrates, the validity of an idea or action is determined not by whether it is widely believed or widely reviled, but by whether it obeys the rules of logic.